Do not judge

Large cities beckon with their prospects, active life and standard of living. The ability to express oneself is being realized with success precisely in megalopolises, and not in small cities scattered throughout the country. I would like to consider the question a little: why do young people in small, green cities strive to go to a larger city?

Once a teenager stops before a difficult choice: hang in the place where all his relatives and close people, or go to conquer the unknown. Admission to the university symbolizes the beginning of a new path, the opportunity to express themselves in full. And inspired students rush to set foot on an independent path of study.

Not everyone is seeking independence. Still, parents continue to give money for various expenses. And regardless of the amount allocated to the student, he will feel a lack of money. Too many temptations in a big city. Parents, sending money to their child, are looking forward to his arrival home.

And here comes the teenager home, and there it begins: "Oh, what are you wearing! We don’t wear this !!! What kind of hairstyle is this? I'm ashamed of you ... What will people say?" And this is where an inner rift arises: to change clothes means to lose your individuality and significance, to remain in the same clothes - to upset parents. In most cases, the student sighs, internally breaks himself, changes into something that suits both sides and begins to get involved in the game "Let's Condemn Someone."

Have you thought about it? When people scold megacities for their indifference to a neighbor, for coldness and neutrality in various situations, the reverse, positive side of the coin is rarely seen. The possibility of quiet coexistence of one girl in boots, and the other - in shoes, clothes of any color, regardless of the "fashion" and the fact that "it is customary to wear." In large cities, if someone starts to react too violently to their surroundings, then it is immediately clear: visitors!

In a small town, in addition to warmth and comfort, there is something that repels: the habit of discussing others. At first I could not understand the reasons for this. How so? It seems that we are all human, but we live in a megacity quietly, sometimes interested in each other’s affairs. And as soon as we get into a cozy cute little town, watering with mud begins, condemnation and language clasping. Where does such a habit get into the lives of other people?

As always, the answer lies on the surface. In a big city, life is too in full swing. If you have a free minute, you can go to the cinema or theater (at least for a day, at least for an evening session). If there is a lot of money with money, then small art galleries and exhibition halls are ready to accept ordinary visitors without paying entrance fees. Their interest is in finding potential buyers for certain paintings, rather than showing works of art for money. And if you remember about free concerts on the main square of the city !!! In the metropolis, politicians have enough money to pay for the work of famous artists.

In a small town there is no such mass entertainment, designed for different thickness of the wallet in your pocket. Beer bars, the only House of Culture, a recreation park for babies are almost the only leisure option. Therefore, the discussion of everything and everyone is a favorite entertainment. His life seems too boring, and this is the beginning of the conviction of someone, the identification of flaws. Infinite series sometimes give way to the realities of life, so their viewing may be somewhat marginalized.

Getting into the familiar environment, a person unwittingly begins to obey the generally accepted laws. Want to change your environment? Change yourself first! Stop violently resenting about the act of a stranger, stop discussing a little bit significant event. "Judge not lest ye be judged!"