Why men are afraid to say words of love

Spring has come. With the awakening of nature, feelings and emotions are activated, I want to fall in love and give everyone my love. Women especially want this, because by nature they are more sensual and romantic, but even more they want men next to them not to stint on the manifestations of affection and tenderness. It is so wonderful to feel loved and desired, but not all men can show it to a woman, even if in the depths of the soul they have strong feelings for her. So why are we so different, and men sometimes behave with us like cold icebergs?

Fear of looking weak

Even boys teach men to be strong, never to cry and to protect girls. For a man, tender manifestations of feelings, tender words of love - this is a woman's lot, and if they, too, will behave this way, they will not look manly but womanly. They tend to be more logical to explain each act and in their assessments are limited to clear and precise words. For many men, saying the word "love" is generally akin to suicide. There is even a phrase: "the girl hostess to her word, she wanted to give, she wanted to, she took it back." For a woman, it’s normal to live with feelings, to experience and say one thing today, tomorrow another thing, and the man is responsible for his words and therefore clearly considers every word spoken. He believes that if he said love, he must now do everything to preserve this relationship.

Upbringing

Life reference points for men and women are fundamentally different. The woman has to be faithful wife and mother, to fill the house with warmth and comfort, and the man is set on a career and success. And only by throwing aside feelings, including a cold mind, can a man achieve his goals. Why are there fewer leaders and leaders among women, because women are naturally softer, unlike men? Think about it, they demand from people everywhere rigidity - in work, in behavior, in sports, and when it comes to expressing feelings, it is not surprising that they are in no hurry to talk about love.

Fear of losing freedom

For men, personal independence and freedom is one of the most important priorities in life and they are very afraid of losing it all if they say "I love". Today, you will demand a declaration of love, tomorrow you will forbid him to go out with friends, and then you will generally drag him to the registry office, they think. Try to talk to him and explain that restrictions and words of love are two different things, it is just important for you to be in a relationship, to be confident in the feelings of your partner.

No such example

If your man grew up in a family where parents did not spoil each other with words of love and tenderness, then he will do the same. The father for any man is a model of behavior that he subconsciously adopts. Is it possible to re-educate such a man? Difficult, but possible. You need to replace one program of behavior with another, gradually suggesting to him that it is not so scary to express feelings. Begin by yourself first to express your love, perhaps first the man will not hear you, but eventually get used to it. Do not be offended due to the fact that he does not respond to your manifestations of feelings as you would like, because a woman has a wider range of feelings, to the end that a man cannot feel. The best place to reach a man is a bed. After a passionate night, you can give a complimentary assessment of his efforts, and then start a conversation about love, which a flattered man will accept much easier.

Old bugs

Perhaps he had previously confessed in love and was even sincere at that moment, but then his novel did not end very well and the word I love drowned in quarrels, shouts and mutual insults. Or maybe he himself first confessed his love, but his partner did not appreciate it and did not say the same in response, and now his words of love are associated with unpleasant memories. Which exit? Here you just have to be patient and wait until your relationship passes the test of strength, and the man decides that he has nothing to fear and will make you happy with three important words.

Wrong approach

A woman, suffering from male coldness, often uses a completely wrong tactic. You will have to be a woman's wise and compliant, otherwise you will not achieve anything constructive from a man. Men do not accept any demands and accusations in their direction, so if a woman begins her conversation with complaints, the result will be very sad, the man simply will not listen to her. He perceives such statements in his address as pressure and attempts to remake it for himself. And he will in principle do exactly the same as before. The most correct thing is to calmly talk with your man and tell you that you would like to receive more affection and warmth in your address, you value your relationship very much, but if the words of love were heard more often in them, then you would feel happier. With such a position, you will have much more chances to be heard.

See also:Gentle words for the beloved

You cannot re-educate a person, but you can change his attitude towards many things. So you can change the opinion about the expression of your feelings at the most unapproachable man. But if you got a very complex copy, think, are the words of love so important to you, because if a man loves it can be seen without words, and if not, then no words will help.