Man is a social being. Moreover, socially dependent. There is hardly anyone among us who has never interacted with society in his life. Moreover, we do not just need to communicate, make friends, build close relations with the second half, and provide attention to relatives. All these people play a special role in our life. It seems that no one can replace them. We often hear that relationships with especially close people should be built on mutual trust. In addition, trust is a kind of litmus test of the seriousness and depth of a relationship.
Trust rules out lies
Finding how to win the trust of some important people for us is an integral part of their lives for many. It is difficult to say why some people trust all their secrets (moreover, they are not always worthy individuals), while others don’t want to talk too much.
However, you can try to show people that you deserve to earn their trust. First of all stop lying. At least do not do it at every step. Just try to be as frank as possible with people who are really close to you. When a person sees your sincerity, he will surely understand that he is really important to you. Any person wants to be important, necessary and dear to someone. Of course not easy to learn to tell the truth. Each time, giving an assessment of your answer to the question of the interlocutor, we try on true and false answers. Unfortunately, not always our final choice falls on the first option.
Of course, there are situations in which a lie can be useful, saving. However, in most cases, the truth will be a much more optimal option than a lie. Will you tell your best friend that her favorite dress goes to her if she looks in her, to put it mildly, badly? If yes, then you are a bad friend. Just imagine that the next time she does the same. Would you be pleased when everyone will look at you and whisper behind your back about why you are so dressed up. Understand that it is better to tell the truth than to worry about the person and see how it hurts him. Yes, at first you may be offended, but then, most likely, say thank you and begin to trust, ask for advice, to reckon with your opinion. After all, a person asks a question in order to hear the truth.
Relationship Trust and Secrets
Very often, when you hear how someone gives out someone's secrets, you just want to stick a sticker with the image of a Soviet poster on it "Do not chat!". After all, indeed, if you think a person told you a secret. So why spread it everywhere? When you are going to tell someone's secret, think about how you wound the feelings of a person who really trusts you. No wonder he shared with you.
If you do not learn to keep others' secrets, you will never win confidence close person. And if this somehow nonetheless works out for you, then it’s not at all a fact that you will manage to keep this trust. But often this is the most important. To grab trust is much easier than holding it. If you were told something that you are very much too much, that it’s just impossible to keep it all in yourself (and this happens), tell it. But to listen to you should a man who never even nowhere can cross with those who told you the secret.
It’s best to tell someone who by and large doesn’t care what happens in your friend’s life, but he understands that this is important to you. Then you will get a wonderful listener, and your secret will not go any farther than you. And, oddly enough, it is advisable to say everything that you have accumulated, to “wipe out” this topic so much so that you never have to return to it again. In this way, you will achieve both your psychological discharge and the fact that you will never again speak on this topic.
Listen and you will be trusted
If you want a person to trust you, learn to listen and hear him. Unfortunately, in modern society, when everyone is in a hurry to where, there are very few true listeners who are able to extract as much information as possible from the story of the interlocutor. Therefore, such friends are just worth their weight in gold. Our friends and acquaintances very often want to find psychologists in us with whom you can always share. Many of us like this role. We begin to feel ourselves especially significant, a kind of savior of the human soul. Oddly enough, often it is.
A person, telling something to a friend, frees up his thoughts and soul from the burden. Believe me to listen to a loved one is actually an interesting activity. The main thing you need, don't take everything to heart. Try to be as rational as possible, and most importantly attentive. You will make a pleasant friend and soon begin to enjoy it yourself.
Trust is a fragile thing that is very easy to break. Your task - do not deceive feelings a person who truly trusts you. Then you will receive a priceless gift - mutual trust. For this you can a couple of times, overcame yourself, keep quiet or listen and give advice, spend a few minutes to help a friend, lover or mother.
Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com.ru- Marie Matveyuk