Fussing kids, cheers, a little tired mommies. In the sandbox there are people with different destinies, their opinions and rules of life. Sometimes it is precisely here that serious debates can arise about how children are brought up, what to wear them and what to feed them with.
One of the stumbling blocks is often the topic of difference between children. And in general - is it worth to have more than one child? There are many opinions, everyone is trying to find their arguments. So maybe we should also think about this issue?
The optimal difference is:
- Entire life. To raise one baby is a serious matter. It is required to survive the period of gestation, childbirth, sleepless nights. Then the financial costs of registration in kindergarten, parental fees, "voluntary" purchases in the group. The school shows that the kindergarten - it was still flowers, and with horror the graduation and training in the university is expected. Because of the fear of not cope with this, many abandon the idea of having a second child (or even the first). Achievements of medicine make it possible to successfully protect oneself from an unwanted pregnancy, but sometimes in life something is missing ... An only child can demand much more than his parents can give him, pour accusations and reproaches. Yes, in theory, you should not hang the stigma "egoist" only because the person grew up in a family without brothers and sisters. But in practice, there is too much evidence of this generally accepted opinion.
- Somewhere 15-17 years old. This principle is guided by those who think so: "How many children can I please with my attention? Only one. So, the second should appear during the period when the eldest gets to his feet, leaves the family." There is a grain of truth in this, but there are quite a few negative moments. For example, a senior, regardless of his willingness to go to the "independent swimming" feels superfluous. Challenging a child grows, demands to behave like adults. And the transition period, his vision of the world and jealousy of the younger, for whom everything is forgiven, do not allow him to stand up clearly. That support that was before, sharply leaves from under feet. Often in such families the relationship with the older child is strained.
- About 10 years. Partially comes from the previous paragraph. Almost the same problems (with modifications). The elder is already living with his own interests, so you can pay less attention to him.
- Two to three years. From the older youngest remains a stroller, bath, some little things. This is not yet the age for the title of “nanny” to be fixed to the elders, he has “spoiled his childhood”. But there is no better companion in the game than your own brother (or sister). The spirit of competition allows you to achieve more in life. And joint education - to adapt to the world around people. From the minuses it is possible to list the fact that the hormonal background of the woman is barely normalized, the body does not have time to fully recover from a previous pregnancy, as a married couple ceases to protect themselves and deliberately goes to the second child. When the elder is still only two years old, it is very difficult for the younger to blunt, and for the eldest not to forget the tale for the night. And if during the school period bulk purchases of exercise books allow you to save some of the funds, then with the approach of the students a headache is added. There is a solution: to make a habit of saving a part of the income to the account for each of the children. Or give children an incentive to study in such a way that they will be accepted for the budget form of education with a chance to receive a scholarship.
No matter how much the married couple decides to have children, this is just her choice. Taken responsibility can not be shifted to their surroundings. And no matter how many years between your children, may your family be happy!
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