In this article, we declare war on stereotypes! All people live in society and are therefore subject to the influence of various attitudes and stereotypes. On the one hand, stereotypes, of course, play a positive role and protect us from bad deeds, and on the other, they merge us with the gray mass of the crowd and deprive us of our freedom of choice and our own opinion. Let's look at the main stereotypes that haunt women.
Get married up to 25 years
In childhood, every girl dreams of getting married as soon as possible, putting on a white dress and a ring on her finger. But as soon as she grows up, she realizes that she needs so much to do, so with marriage you can wait. And here begins social pressure: mothers and grandmothers constantly remind you to sit like this, and then you don’t need anyone, in the press and on television they exaggerate the complications of late childbirth, and the girlfriends start to get married slowly, arrange their female happiness. Here you can not help thinking about it, but do I do everything right? The woman begins to overcome fear that if she does not hurry with marriage, then she will remain in the girls. When you fall under the influence of this stereotype, you begin to spend all your free energy on finding a husband and consider even the most overwhelming candidates. But is it really important to have time to get married before 25? Do not do this if you yourself are not ready for this, but succumb to public influence. Perhaps for you in the first place now is work and creative self-realization, you are not ready to manage the household, and it’s better to dance in the club all night, all the more you are not ready now to have children and to limit yourself to something. Having reached a more mature age, you will gain experience, good work and position in society, and you yourself will want to twist the family nest, but for now you don’t need to be in a hurry.
Or maybe you have been in a relationship with a man for a long time, but is he in no hurry to make you a marriage proposal? In this case, the woman overcomes the fear that the relationship with this man will not develop, and she will remain alone at a decent age. If you talk like that, you can get married at a young age and after a few decades divorce. Marriage registration does not fundamentally affect the relationship, if you are well with the person, then the marriage will only officially confirm this, and if your relationship is cracked, then no marriage will help.
The reverse side of the first stereotype - too early marriage. Sometimes the first love is so strong that the young lose their heads from the feelings, they want to constantly be around and therefore rush to legitimize their relationship. Parents and others do not approve of such marriages, because in their understanding young still frivolous, emotional and irresponsible children, for whom care is needed. In addition, what kind of marriage can we talk about, when, in the opinion of parents, you must first learn, find a job and only then think about the family. But no one can say with certainty that such a marriage will not work out; from the early couples, happy and strong families are often obtained. If your relationship with a young man has been tested for strength, you have lived together for some time, and you are completely confident in your partner, then why not try yourself in a new role - as your wife!
In relationships should be romance
Romantic attributes have long been an indicator of male love for a girl. A man should give flowers, gifts and arrange surprises, and if he does not, then why such a man - girls argue. Do you really think all this is proof of love?
True love is read in the eyes and not a single flower expresses it, but if you look around and see that other girls are given flowers, but you are not, this does not mean that they are happier than you in love. Or maybe you yourself are not a fan of romance, but since everywhere they say that girls are especially romantic, you demand from your beloved to be more romantic. It may already be enough to adjust your relationship to a certain format and start living the way you want. Eat and you are completely confident in
Many dream of living in another city, finding another job, meeting the perfect man. And they consider their present life only as preparation for another good life, and without noticing that life is passing. To get rid of this, one must begin to live here and now and create one’s life out of what has been left for you at the moment. Not the fact that having moved to another place, everything will be fine with you, or, having found the perfect man, you will fall in love with him without memory. Often we blame our failures on circumstances and at the same time we are afraid to admit that at some point we simply gave up, although we had to show a little perseverance and patience. Increase your confidence by first achieving small goals, and then move on to large-scale plans. In case of failures, make constructive conclusions, and do not engage in self-assembly.
Being alone is wrong
Do you look with envy at your loving girlfriends and do not remember when you had a real mutual relationship? You should not take loneliness as karma, it has its advantages. Being in the free search, you can devote more time to your beloved one - find a hobby, play sports and your own self-improvement, or flirt with the male sex, which is already inadmissible in a relationship. In general, do whatever you want, just do not get drunk on your own loneliness, you will not notice how you will soon have a lot of fans.
Do not be afraid to go against public opinion. Only you know how to become happy, so do not stop at nothing on the way to happiness!
Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com - Natella