"Stupid women look after their men, and clever ones follow themselves."
- Once we were so happy together, and suddenly everything collapsed in one moment!
- I do not understand what happened, everything was fine, why did he go to another?
- How am I worse? How is she better? After all, before he loved only me?
- When we met, I was for him the most beautiful, most desirable woman in the world! Why are his feelings gone?
- Why did he cheat on me?
How often women ask such questions - ask them to themselves, friends, the psychologist ... How often, in our life, unforeseen, unexpected troubles occur - something happens to the husband, to a friend, to a boyfriend - it changes. He changes, he changes ...
But is the situation between two once in love suddenly changed?
Start over. You met .. and! .... And here we will immediately stop. What were you like when you met? Cheerful, and maybe sad; sad, and maybe mysterious; happy life, or disappointed in this world; seeking new appointments, or wanting no dating. In fact, it does not matter. Another thing is important - then, at the moment when you met, in the eyes of a man you were unexplored, inaccessible, inaccessible.
What happens next? You met, started to get to know each other ... and he fell in love! Not. He fell in love at the first moment. Not when you began to recognize each other, but at the time of the meeting, at first glance.
Male and female psyche are arranged differently. A man is by nature a conqueror, he comprehends unknown territories, he is active, he is a warrior. A man always knows at first sight whether a woman will become his wife or not. (I’m not talking about cases when a woman herself falls in love with a man and starts to achieve him - this is another time).
The female psyche is different. A woman needs stability, peace, clarity in relationships. Women rarely fall in love at first sight, rather from the second or from the third. A woman needs to look, get used to, get comfortable - usually after that love is born in her heart.
Therefore, in all myths, fairy tales and legends, a man is active - he searches for his beloved, achieves her at various tournaments, passes tests ... A woman is passive - she sits and waits for her prince, she checks him, tests, looks at him.
And now - the final, he won it, she gave him his heart. They got married, and .... And what happens next? Unfortunately, as mentioned above, man is by nature a conqueror, conqueror. He conquered one territory, rested ... and went to conquer the next ...
And the woman quietly sits in the conquered territory in the confidence that her man will sit and enjoy life with her ...
The main thing about female art is to always remain for the man an incomprehensible mystery, even if it has already been studied, but at the same time unexplored.
So now there are so many slogans under the motto "love yourself!" Their essence lies not in selfish concentration on oneself and disregard for other people.
No, the essence of this slogan is in studying yourself, accepting yourself, in the art of self-love. When a woman learns to love herself, she has interests, new desires, which she addresses to her man. She again becomes incomprehensible, unexplored.
The secret lies in the fact that men like to guess us again and again. Men are proud when their wife has interests and hobbies in life. Men like to fulfill our desires!
If a woman has no desires, if everything suits her - the man does not feel realized, he does not understand what his mission is next to this woman. He is looking for another - the one that has desires, requests, needs. Feminist "I will satisfy my desires myself" kills men, makes of them boys, irresponsible, lazy, passive.
Feministically-minded women make girls out of their men, the energy in such couples changes from one polarity to another — women become like men and men become women. But in the depths of his soul, a man still remains a man, and as soon as he meets a real Woman, he will change, go to her.
You will never keep your man if you yourself fulfill all your desires, or if you study for him a book conquered by territory.
Love yourself, listen to yourself, take care of yourself - and your man will always be with you!
Especially for the DeadSpecial Psychologist,
personal effectiveness trainer