When we hear the phrase unequal marriage, we immediately imagine a mature man with a pretty girl, but lately you can often watch couples when a man is younger than a woman. And it is not surprising, often with young partners, women feel welcome and become younger soul. This article is not about a difference of several years, but about a substantial one, from five years and more.
Hidden fantasies of women
Psychologists conducted a survey, among middle-aged women, they would decide to start a relationship with a guy younger than themselves. About three thousand women participated in the survey, and about half of the women admitted that they were not at all against the affair with a man ten years or more younger. Thirty-five percent of the ladies said that much depends on the circumstances and did not give a definite answer to the question, the other women said that they often represent themselves in their fantasies next to a young man, but in life they would hardly have decided on such a relationship. Psychologists do not see anything strange, if a woman reaches out to young partners, so she wants return again to his youth, when was something naive and reckless girl.
It is also important for women that the fact that she might like a young guy, thus, she proves to herself and those around her that, despite her age, she is an interesting and attractive woman. Sometimes a woman aims to try sex with a younger man, but does not consider him as a life partner, understanding their difference in life values and interests.
Public condemnation of such couples
Unequal pairs often fall under public influence, someone condemns them, while others support them, but no one remains indifferent. Moreover, a mature man and a young girl in society are sympathetic to couples, considering that a girl can learn a lot from an experienced adult man. And couples where a man younger is often the cause of condemnation and misunderstanding from the side, and even relatives can stand on the side of society, and not lovers. In society, there is a stereotype that in such a pair someone necessarily puts their personal interests first, not feelings. Therefore, such couples constantly have to prove their right to love and if they pass all these tests, then their relationship is difficult to destroy. By the way, there are many cases when such relationships ended in a happy and prosperous marriage.
Why do women pull on young?
Women who have a passion for young partners are drawn to them not for financial reasons. Usually a woman in adulthood has already taken place as a person, has a prestigious job, an apartment, a car, and the only thing she lacks is love and warmth. And the earnings of her young partner are not at all interested in her, on the contrary, she herself is ready to help him financially. Woman is attracted by the sensual sexual side of relationships, and many men her age can not give it to her in full. This is usually due to the fact that male peers become more pragmatic over the years and forget to surprise a woman with their care and attention, which cannot be said about young men for whom the romantic side of relationships has not yet become boring. And of course, the sexual aspect is important: in women of mature age, sensuality and sexuality only increase, and in men, the peak of sexual activity falls on young years, gradually fading. So it turns out that with a young partner a woman can once again feel the beauty of sleepless nights.
How to maintain harmony in unequal relationships?
A woman who has a relationship with a young partner should understand that she will always have to look decent against the background of her boyfriend. Although she may not be able to compete with her young rivals in her youth and freshness, but even despite her years, a mature woman can look sexy and attractive. But one thing that cannot be avoided in such a relationship is jealousy, because more young people will always wind next to her partner and therefore a woman should have advantages over them. You should never point a man to his "tender" age and lack of experience . Any man, despite the difference in age, seeks to be a leader in relationships and to teach his woman something, and not to feel himself a son of a big mommy. It is also silly to try to buy the love of a young man with gifts and entertainment. In the end, the partner may just feel like a toy in the hands of a wealthy woman who just uses it, and who wants his feelings to buy? Trust and sincerity - this is what should be at the heart of such a relationship. It is not worth constantly torturing your partner with unreasonable jealousy towards young girls, because he chose you and singled out you among other women! And when you show him some reproaches, you will simply lose respect in his eyes.
Finally I want to say that you should not be afraid to enter into a relationship with a man younger - this is your life, and no one knows better than you how to become happy. On your way you will encounter public misunderstanding, rumors and gossip in your direction, but this should not be a stumbling block. Always put your feelings in the first place, because if they are mutual, it doesn’t matter how old it is.