Do we often think about what education is?
Of course not. Each person defines this concept for himself. Someone considers upbringing full obedience and discipline, someone - the development of the child’s abilities, the presence of good manners, etc.
But almost all of us forget that education cannot be today or tomorrow, it is a continuous, everyday process.
Maybe it is worth stopping, to think: what values do we advocate, how do we bring up our children by example or not, and if we spend time with the child, we prefer work - who is at this moment next to him, who influences how to shape personalities of our children.
Of course, you can argue: what about children's institutions? We trust the education of our children to kindergartens, a school where specialists work.
This is of course true. But the child is a complete reflection of the family, and no most dear educators will do “work” for us. The child always pays attention to our attitude to the environment, tries to walk around the people. And our primary task is to give a positive personal example.
Very often in the books devoted to the education of the individual, the old parable is given. Its main theme is as follows: two families with children go to an uninhabited island.
The island is rich in fruit trees, all kinds of living creatures, rivers abound with fish. Some parents work day and night, tirelessly, to provide children with good nutrition, to arrange, as far as possible, life. Others load children with work, force them to work along with themselves.
And suddenly a tornado rushes through the island, the parents of two families die. The parable ends with a question: whose children will survive on the island?
It seems that nothing needs to be added. With our "blind" love, we, unfortunately, do not educate a person, but destroy it by growing up soulless, not adapted to the life of children.
How to raise a personality in a child
The main educational goal of the family is to teach the child to live correctly and independently in this world.
And this means not to keep children in the "greenhouse", but as often as possible to give the child independence in the choice of their actions and decisions. Only in independence is the formation of the personality. Do not offer ready-made solutions - let the child make a mistake, "fill his bumps," he comprehends the meaning of life. And our task is to guide him and come to the rescue, if one is required.
Think about who you want to bring up: a knowledgeable, energetic, hardworking independent person or a greedy, cowardly tradesman, a cunning one who, at the earliest opportunity, will accuse you of his faults and mistakes?
Modern parents face another global problem: how to protect a child from the flow of information from television screens, the Internet, which disrupts the emotional peace of children, their mental balance? How to direct children's interest in the right direction?
Parents, remember: you should always know what your child watches and listens to, with whom he spends his free time, what he is interested in.
This does not mean that you will spy on him. Not! Your child should feel that you trust him completely, just that you, as an attentive parent, want to be there, to share his successes and failures with the child. Your child should be aware that you are not an enemy, but a friend, an assistant, he can always lean against your shoulder - and you support him in all his plans and undertakings.
In life, children will have to face all sorts of temptations, dishonorable people and their actions. And you have to be sure that your independent child will come to you for advice, because he trusts, he knows that you will not read moral teachings, but simply support him.
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Do not take care of children too much, but do not lose sight of - accompany the child through life, setting a personal positive example.