As you know, the family is one of the main values of a person. If we are able to choose friends and our close associates, then relatives (especially parents) are people who exist next to us, regardless of whether we want it or not. Moreover, mother lives with us side by side almost all of our lives, directing us, supporting, sometimes scolding and denouncing. Of course, a mother is the most precious thing a person has. But it happens that mother and daughter suddenly cease to understand each other. What to do? How to keep warm family relationships?
How to improve relationships with mom?
Probably, each of us was faced with the fact that in evaluating any of our actions, mother often uses the phrase "nowadays ...", and then follows a long story about how good it was when their generation was in your age Many daughters simply do not tolerate this; they become angry and nervous, trying to explain to their mother that her time has passed, that now there are completely different morals, a different model of behavior for young people, and other values. Actually, here and there is a peak of passions.
The conflict of such a plan can last for a very, very long time, if one of the parties does not announce a "surrender". No matter how sad it is to admit it, but in this situation, the daughter must make a step towards her. Here you just need to soberly evaluate everything. Your mother has already lived a long enough life, gained a lot of life experience, and by example she was convinced how to act in any given situation, and therefore considers everything that she says to be the only possible and undoubtedly correct (she also helped ).
Take all of my mother's advice with dignity and gratitude. So you will make your relationship more solid and trusting, and you will find the best friend, because your mother will keep your secrets better than other friends, help you and forgive you, no matter what happens.
If my mother's attention is not enough ...
Every person wants to feel necessary, important for someone, especially for mom, but, unfortunately, sometimes our dearest people turn their backs on us, are not at all interested in us, and even insult them for no apparent reason, humiliate them. Sad and terrible, but it happens and not so rare. Mom can be fascinated solely by herself, other children in the family, and, on the contrary, can show too much interest in your person, often scolding, pointing you to what you need to do, but at the same time you absolutely do not feel her good intentions. It seems that you are a complete stranger to your mother, you can compare yourself with Cinderella. It is good if you have a kind fairy godmother who will become you and a vest in which you can cry and replace the parent. And if not?
If your mother, besides you, has objects for attention, but you lack it, try to self-realize, arrange your life, set a goal and achieve it.. It will help you in any case. Even if you do not win mom's attention, you will still be satisfied with yourself, with the fact that you are able to realize yourself and make your life the way you want. This model of behavior is also suitable in the second case. Are you insulted and oppressed in every way? So take and prove that you are not the one for whom your mother takes you, that you are a person and deserve respect. Conflicts and disputes will ultimately lead only to more intense confrontation. Do not go ahead, find workarounds.
Show attention and care to mom
Now imagine that the opposite is true. Your mother is constantly trying to attract attention to herself: she is eager to talk with you, to help you in any matters. You are a mature and self-sufficient person; all these conversations with a slightly infantile and obsessive mom are just uninteresting to you. However, in conversations with your friends, you say how difficult it is for you to find a common language with your mom. And then the question arises. Have you ever been looking for him?
After all find a common language with a person will only help heart to heart, the ability to listen to the interlocutor, somehow send. You know perfectly well that your character is harder, your position in life is more active, you are young, there are many people around you who are ready to listen to you. And your mother ... Try to put yourself in her place and think about how to help her.. She has no one closer to you, she needs attention - so give at least a part of your precious time to your own dear person. Just by listening to her over a cup of tea with cookies, you will deliver to your mother the most powerful and long-awaited pleasure from communicating with you.
Remember that there is no perfect family relationship. Each of us sooner or later brewing conflict with their parents. What it will lead to and how long it will last depends on you. Look, you may just pay attention to your mother, talk to her, listen, sometimes even admit that you are wrong. In relations with your mother you should not show too much pride, because thanks to this person you breathe, love, smile, live, in the end!
Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com.ru - Marie Matveyuk