Modern parenting

Raising children has been an integral part of life at all times. The science that deals with the problems of education, and the education of children is called - pedagogy. Education provides the child with knowledge, life experience and forms the social behavior of the child.

Even in antiquity, the attitude toward children was no different from our current attitude toward animals. For their disobedience, they were subjected to cruel, painful, sometimes leading to death, punishment. At the sites of ancient Roman burials, archaeologists found the remains of thousands of little boys, slaughtered to death by their fathers for disobedience. But over time, our society is becoming more and more civilized, and most families have abandoned the cruel methods of raising children.

But, unfortunately, and now parents resort to violent or intimidating methods, when they do not find other ways to influence the child. Remember your school days when, having received an unsatisfactory grade, you said: "Mom or dad will kill me." Everyone understands that the word "kill" does not bear its direct meaning, but still this metaphor, which is quite common today, proves that parents resort to frightening methods of influencing children to this day.

It is terrible that many parents consider it necessary to cause physical harm to the child in certain situations, referring to the fact that his father was so raised, he himself will also raise his own child, thanks to what? he will become a worthy citizen. A surprising fact: the majority of children who for “each received two” were subjected to severe beatings, or even insignificant “cuffs” (which do not better influence the development of the child’s psyche) justify their parents, believing that they deserve such treatment thank them for bullying, not wanting to recognize them as such.

More and more modern people are trying to abandon the violent method of education, recognizing it as obsolete. But, not finding alternative routes of influence, they simply simply lose control over their pupils, or the child grows up, as it is now called, “spoiled”. Few people understand that it is necessary to replace the usual methods of education, no less effective, positive methods.

Raising children in modern society

Over the past millennia, parents, as a rule, are not the only source of influence on a child, which can both complicate and simplify the process of upbringing. Along with the family, there are now such social structures as kindergartens, schools, orphanages, boarding schools. In addition, do not forget about such inventions as radio, television, etc.

The child spends a significant part of his life in any educational institution, whose work is aimed at the upbringing, education and development of the child's personality. Increased attention to the problems of development and upbringing of young children and the active growth of scientific research on this issue is due to the enormous influence of the first years of a child’s life on human development. It has been scientifically proven that modern children are more sensitive, sensitive, open, as a result, they need a special, new approach, and the old methods of education are no longer relevant. 21st century is the century of scientific and technical progress. Modern children from early childhood have access to television, where they demonstrate extremely harmful and even “murderous” films for the child’s psyche, programs and even cartoons. Now, this is the main problem in raising a child. The cognitive function of man is built mainly on imitation. And what can you learn from most TV shows? It is here that it becomes important how the difference between the real and unreal world of his parents will be explained to the child. They affect the child much more than anything else.

To grow a responsive, intelligent, sociable and self-confident child, it is necessary to cultivate willpower in him, and not to suppress it. Previously, children were taught to obey without any authority (parents, teachers ...), and modern methods suggest raising an independent child, obeying the call of his heart, which will help them in future with peers and in organizing their own lives. After all, we should not forget that modern children are undoubtedly more capable and creative than their parents.

Anyone interested in this problem, I advise you to read the great book by John Gray "Children from Heaven", in which the author tells in detail about the five methods of positive education!

  • To be different is normal.
  • Making mistakes is normal.
  • Show negative emotions - normal
  • Wanting more is normal.
  • Expressing your disagreement is normal, but remember that mom and dad are the main ones.

  1. To be different is normal. Each person is individual, each has his own character traits, needs, talents, opinions, ideas, interests, etc. Parents are the people who need to recognize the needs of their child and assist in their satisfaction. Each child has a special structure of the brain, respectively, the speed of learning, mastering the material, the desire to achieve any goal is different, so you can not compare them with others.
  2. Making mistakes is normal. Mistakes are a natural, normal occurrence for every person. The child comprehends the truth by making mistakes
  3. Showing negative emotions is normal. Our life is full of numerous events, some of which inevitably and spontaneously cause anger, fear, anxiety, etc. The task of parents is to explain how to correctly and in what situations one can show one’s negative emotions.
  4. Wanting more is normal. “Say thank you for what you already have,” is the standard response to the child’s desire for more. But it's not right. It is necessary to explain to the child how to ask what they want, showing respect to others. By allowing your child to ask for more, you help him learn to set goals and achieve something in life.
  5. Expressing your disagreement is normal, but remember that mom and dad are the main ones.

It is necessary to teach the child to abandon something, or to disagree with something, but to understand that the last word should always be for the parents.

"The goal of positive parenting is to develop in children the tendency in children to have a spirit of cooperation, not submission."

Especially for - Rita

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