Learning to support your own child - Women's magazine

Learning to support your own child

The world in the soul of the baby is largely dependent on his parents. Their love and warmth can protect from any trouble. But sometimes there are situations when trust begins to weaken, and hope for understanding of the closest people - to bursting at the seams.

It would seem that love for your own child should be much higher than for someone else. At least, many in the first place rush to have their children, and not to adopt foster. But when parents enter a society that can condemn any word or movement, an amazing metamorphosis occurs.

For example, on the playground begin “attacks” and censure of their own child when he tries to win someone else's toy, or keep his own. What caused such a negative reaction of parents? Rather, the thoughts that many people around might doubt their level of pedagogical ability than with a genuine love for the child and a desire to help him.

Think about it! Are unfamiliar people so important that they spoil the relationship with the child? Try to stand on the side of your "krovinochka" in order to show the reliability of family ties and the lack of boundaries of trust. It is always possible to explain in a soft form that it is not good to take someone else’s without demand, otherwise the child will have to play alone outside the playground.

Teach your child to say "NO"

Very delicate moment - to give YOUR toy to someone else or not. The desire of the baby must resonate in the heart of his parents. If an ambiguous situation has already arisen, it is better to take “toys for exchange” and “one personal” with you. The child must understand that there are things that can and should not be shared. At the same time, it is offered for the exchange that it is not so sorry, with which it has already played enough and that it does not represent great value for the baby.

A woman is unlikely to allow everyone around her to use her makeup or quietly drink tea from her favorite mug. Rather, an alternative will be offered in return, or a refusal will follow. So teach your child as early as possible to say solid NO. Give the right to choose whether to share another toy with a specific peanut or keep it with you.

And whose side are you on?

When the child grows up, will begin verbal clarification "who is right?" It would be good, first of all, to take the side of a close little person, and not an outsider. Even if the words are guessed false, it is better to go forward and support the child. Then ask to tell about the incident in more detail. And if in the dialogue it turns out to be true, it is worthwhile to show a decent way out of the situation, and not to pour sharp accusations.

In your childhood, did you want the closest people to be relatives not only from the biological side, but also from the psychological side? Give your own child the opportunity to feel protected from external adversity in his family, and not someone else's company. Learn to build a relationship of trust with a small age of your crumbs. And may love and mutual understanding reign in your family!

Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com.ru- Katbula

Add a comment