There are so many single guys ... But you fell in love with a married man. No one needs any more, life on him has come together, you don’t give in to any persuasions of your girlfriends and stubbornly go to your goal - to win his love, or having already won, enjoy your relationship. But here, as in any union, men and women have their own "underwater rocks".
Develop a relationship with a married man
At first everything is fine with you.As soon as a free minute appears, an hour or even a day, your new boyfriend comes to you, surrounding you with warmth, affection and care. Of course, you like it, you feel that you have never been so close with any other person. This can go on for quite some time. And then you remember that not the only and not even number 1 in his life. He is an "exemplary family man": a wife, two daughters and a big kind dog, who love him with all their hearts and will never let go of anything voluntarily. Sooner or later, such an idea will definitely visit you, after which your inner conflict will begin to develop.
Guilt, shame, pain from the fact that he has another woman, and that they are bound by much, surely, even stronger bonds than your love. Many in such cases, look back, begin to "bite your elbows" and try to break off the relationship.What if you don't want to interrupt them? The family, of course, also does not want to ruin, but it is not your rules to deprive yourself of your beloved Try to learn more from him about how he behaves in the family. Also, he is considering a variant of divorce from his wife. If yes, then when. Do not hesitate and do not be afraid similar conversations. This will help you determine how serious your relationship is, and how far they can go, what you can count on.
What if he does not want to divorce?
If your favorite rejects the possibility of his divorce and your wedding, think about how you would like your whole life to be the second number, a spare option in someone's life. Understand that if he has no serious plans for you, you will always remain a mistress. You will create difficulties for him, for yourself you will get a bunch of experiences, you will be pursued by the feeling of loneliness when he is not around. In addition, you will constantly be captivated by the thought that this person will never be yours completely. However, not everyone is alarmed by such thoughts. There are people who do not care what place they occupy in the life of another. But can you relate yourself to this category?
Options for continuing relations with a married
But what if...
- ...wife learns about everything?Most likely, for a long time already knows, well, or guess. If she reconciled with this, then you have nothing to fear. In addition, your loved one may leave sooner or later. But if she decided to resort to active actions, you somehow will have to dot the "i". Be prepared for the fact that you will have to listen to a lot, suffer tantrums and tears, and in the most difficult cases, everything can end in assault. It is better not to allow such "extreme cases". Try discuss everything peacefully. Adult women after all.
- ...children won't like you? (For those whose gentleman does not hide your relationship). If your man is not just married, but also with children, then sooner or later, you will have to get to know them. How your child perceives you depends not only on your behavior., but also from what his mother told him about you, how she positioned your relationship with the father of the child. Yes, and your beloved affects the course of events. Before you make an appointment, find out what the child is interested in, what is important for him in life, how he perceives your relationship. Learn to try as much as possible. But at the meeting in no case can't be too cute and in every possible way deliberately trying to please the child. Most often, this behavior looks stupid and puzzling. The easiest way is to behave as naturally as possible. If you do not pass "face control", do not worry. In the end, you meet with your father, not with his child.
Anyway, everyone has the right to love and good relations. The main thing is to understand in time what exactly you need, what you want and what you can donate. And before you decide something, remember that, as a rule, happiness cannot be built on someone else’s misfortune.
Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com.ru- Marie Matveyuk