You are together and you love him very much, and you can’t imagine another man next to him, but there are many moments in him that irritate you a lot. If he got rid of some traits in his behavior, he would have become just the perfect man for you. So is it possible to redeem a man, and how to do it correctly, so that he does not guess anything? Let's figure it out together.
Try not to bring matters to scandals or screams.
The more often and actively you express your dissatisfaction to him for every little thing, the less chances you have to be understood and heard. This is called a defense mechanism, the same thing happens with children, when we shout at them or scold them, they immediately make it all the worse. The way out of this situation is: try to clearly and gently make it clear that you don’t like it, for example, calmly say that you don’t like it when it doesn’t take your things away. And on the contrary, emphasize actions that you liked: a man made some trifle in the house, praise him for that and tell him what golden hands he has.
Put yourself in his place
Try at least a few minutes to feel like a man, perhaps, so it will be easier to understand his needs and desires. An ordinary male toy at home is a TV remote control, and its typical male responsibility is to do home appliances and plumbing, so you shouldn’t give advice on this and go into his space in the house. Better think about where your zone of influence is, what are your female responsibilities for the house? Or, for example, in the evening your man does not have the strength to communicate with you, or to make love, set aside for this the morning hours.
Do not concentrate on his bad behavior.
Psychologists are convinced that if you do not pay for a long time to a person’s annoying habits for a long time, then over time they will not manifest themselves so brightly or will disappear altogether. Does your man always leave a mess after you at home, scattering his dirty socks in the corners or not covering a tube of toothpaste? Keep on doing your household chores, leaving his things in the position in which he left them, he will soon notice the disorder and will hasten to fix it. In this case, begin to praise him and more, because he corrected.
Praise is a very effective method!
Notice any detail behind him and praise him from the heart, but do not sneer at him, but highlight his really manly actions. Even if a man made some trifle, still do not disregard it. Show your delight and respect to the man, and he will repay you twice to see your shining eyes every day.
Very simple and at the same time almost always working way: to hint to him about the reward for the work done. For example, you ask him to help you, and in return you promise to arrange a hot night, or to cook him his favorite dish, it is unlikely that your man will resist such a proposal.
Do not demand everything at once.
Miracles and transformations occur only in fairy tales, but in real life people do not change in a couple of days. So start to "correct" your man with trifles. You start to demand too much at once - the man is taken aback by the number of demands and hurries to slip away from the obligations. Do you want everything at once? Then imagine that you also made a lot of demands to you, that you want to fulfill them right there?
Do not take everything on your account!
Suppose when a cat spoils property in a house, do you think that he does it intentionally? Hardly, you will think so. So the man with his actions does not want to bring you out of balance or spoil your mood. He just does what he sees fit. And when you encounter such behavior, try not to take it as a tragedy, but remember the existence of point 1.
Do not try to find out who is in charge at home, because the main man is always
Give up the idea of domination to a couple and you should not be afraid that you will become a machine gun, dependent on a man. Their ambitious desires must be realized in a career, but not at home. At home, better look for the search for comfort and harmony, and not disassembly, who is the boss in your pair. You can try to share in the family of their responsibilities and responsibilities.
Watch his mood and choose the right moment.
Even the most strict trainers will not work with an animal when it is in a definitely bad mood. But as often happens, in a relationship we want to conduct a debriefing, when the partner is clearly not configured to do so. So scandals and misunderstandings come out of this. If you see that your man is tired after work, is worried about something or is feeling unwell, do not be selfish and postpone the showdown until better times, it will not be possible to correct the situation anyway.
Watch for correct signal interpretation.
Yes, of course you are not a trainer, and if you misunderstand the actions of your beloved, then you will not get bites, but training will never hurt. For example, you know that in the evening your man always finds himself in the bathroom for a long time, and instead of getting angry and knocking at the door, catch the moment when he is going there, and quickly and imperceptibly get there. And after you quickly do there all your necessary business, then let it close there, how much time it takes.
It is also necessary to take into account when re-educating a man some more important points:
- Do not go too far, a man also has the right to his weaknesses and bad habits. And if you do not understand him, it does not mean that he is bad, just the male gender is different than the female.
- Respect a man and his features, is it really so difficult sometimes to adapt to a loved one, if it is not a global issue?
- Remind yourself that if he does something wrong the way you want it, it does not at all mean that he does not love you or treats you badly. Do not make mountains out of molehills!
We hope that our advice will help you to make your beloved man of your dreams. But I want to add, is it necessary to re-educate a man, because we love a man not only for his dignity, but also for his shortcomings.