How to protect a teenager from the negative influence of

It's no secret that adolescence is one of the most difficult periods in the lives of our children, and in ours too. This is the time for the formation of various addictions, a time of disharmony between the adolescent's inner world-view and the requirements of society. For our children, their friends become authorities first of all. Only here the life example of such comrades is not always positive.

Total control of the child

Imagine that your teenage child with a distorted perception of the whole world suddenly falls under the influence of a bad company. In this very handful of so-called “comrades,” your child became addicted to all sorts of bad habits, learned a completely unnecessary pattern of behavior, learned to be rude and swear. Of course, you, as a responsible parent, start taking action. And most often they resemble the Stalin era. Any free thought - execution or reference. But if the great leader did this physically, then the parents often put pressure morally.

Suddenly, unnoticed, everyone becomes a philosopher, a judge and a Chinese sage at the same time. Usually this is expressed in long, frequent and, by the way, to no good conversations and moralizing. They most often carry a negative connotation. A teenager for your every word finds at least ten answers. The result: everything is worse. In fact, adolescents have a tendency to contradict and, from principle, do what they are forbidden to do. Moreover, the more you express your discontent, the more opposition your child has.

Think about it!Is it worth banning everything, including trifles, and too much restricting a teenager in communication with his comrades?

Liberal permissive attitude towards teenagers

However, not all parents behave like prison guards. There is one more extreme - to let everything go to chance. Such parents have something like a motto: you should definitely try everything in life! Well, think, your child drinks beer, smokes, swears, too defiantly puts on. All this will certainly pass. And passes ... Sometimes ... Rarely. Basically, as a child grows up, his habits will also “grow up”. And here, dear parents, you will hardly be able to do anything. As your child grows, you can exercise your authority, then it becomes more difficult.

We have already said that friends greatly influence adolescents. As soon as you said that the influence is bad, your children proved to you the opposite. In the end, you gave up, gave up. Now your child is absolutely free in his actions. Do you think that the child can do as he wants, still get tired sooner or later.

Think about it!And what if the epiphany comes too late? Is it worth the risk of letting a teenager do anything and communicate with anyone? And do you really think that you will regain the respect of the child in this way?

Democracy in the relationship of parents and children

So, total control gives rise to a rebellious mood, a conniving attitude makes it possible to behave as you please, to be in any kind of company and listen to the advice of not quite necessary comrades. There is another model of relations between parents and teenagers - democratic.

There is a certain synthesis of the previous two. On the one hand, you must control the actions of your child, but at the same time, try to give him the opportunity to choose, make decisions on his own.. Teens begin to position themselves as adults. So you need to communicate with them in an adult way. It is necessary to hold confidential conversations over a cup of tea, for example. In no case should you prevent a child from seeing his friends. Try to teach him to draw conclusions from the words and actions of these very comrades, try to become a friend for the child. Yes, usually, it is very difficult for parents, but believe me, it is possible. You and yourselves will then like that your child asks for your advice and trusts secrets as a young man.

Your task is not to forbid the child to communicate with certain people, but to push him so that he himself understands who surrounds him and what to do about it.. But by the way, you can tell what to do. But delicately, without quarrels and scandals. Just give friendly advice.

If you want to protect a child, remember:

• less forbid;
• talk more with, try to emphasize the importance of his decisions;
• do not let everything go to chance;
• Do not try to protect the child from milestones experiences, friends and habits.
• shout less, lead a dialogue.

Our children are the main thing in our life. Let them have their heads on their shoulders, which will help to understand who is who in this world and will make existence more joyful and warm!

And you will find the very cherished middle ground that will help you prevent a child’s mistakes and become the best among all of them.

Especially for womeninahomeoffice.com.ru - Marie Matveyuk