How to explain to a child


People live in society. Every day we encounter a lot of people, we work with them, communicate and make friends. Communication between people is carried out according to the specific laws of morality and ethics that we must comply with. Soon we will have to send "in people" of their own children. It is worth thinking about their moral education.

When to start the moral education of the child?

Many parents believe that their child just under 3 years makes various nonsense and naughty completely involuntarily. It’s just that he still doesn’t know much, and he’s not ready yet for mastering moral norms. That is why the baby does not understand what is good and what is bad and, according to the parents, is not able to understand.

Psychologists advise hold the simplest test. Ask your child to go into an empty room and turn away from you. Then explain that he should not turn around while you unwrap a gift for him. If the child cannot restrain himself and looks, then his reflexes are indeed still involuntary, and he is not able to guide himself. If the child suffered the moment of unpacking the gift, then it is ready to learn the first moral concepts and comply with moral standards.

Proper organization of free time of the child

About 3-4 years old childbecomes a full member of society, since now moral relations are available to him. Society itself presents to the child the first rules of behavior. At first parents explain that you can not steal, lie, offend the weaker, that you need to share with friends, help them. Then about the same child hears and in kindergarten, on the street, in transport etc. The formation of the behavior of the child also contribute cartoons, books, computer games. That is why parents should closely monitor the "range" of entertainment for their child.

If you are correct organize free time child, he soon will begin to understand what qualities can be attributed to the virtues, and which are not, how to act in certain situations. In this case, you must watch out for yourself. Have small children visual and figurative thinking, and parents - unqualified authority. That is, acting in any situation, you give your child a pattern of behavior that he will definitely apply sooner or later. Remember the parable that as the family did not respect the old grandfather, who lived with them: poorly fed, did not help, laughed at him. Their little son, watching this, once said that when they grow old, he will treat them the same way. Before you teach a child something, learn it yourself!

However, it’s not enough for your child to simply know the rules for proper behavior. They need to be able to comply with, put into practice, and not just be able to, but have a sincere desire to do so and not otherwise. The question arises: how to teach this?

How to teach your child the right behavior?

Of course you can to force. Since childhood, the child gets used to the standard method of "carrot and stick": did the right thing - reward, wrong - punishment. Over time, children develop a reflex. They seek to receive praise or reward, respectively, perform the right actions, do the right things. However, such motives do not contribute to personal development. Soon the child’s behavior will be rearranged, he will have other authorities, interests, friends and, as a result, a huge number of behavioral options.

there is very interesting way development of skills for proper behavior. This is a game. Take the balls for table tennis, put them in a container. Leave another container empty. Ask the child to transfer the balls from one vessel to another using a concave scapula. After the task is completed, tell him the story about the boy. An adult asked him to shift the balls without using his hands. The boy tried first, but when the adult came out, he began to do everything with his hands, and then he did not admit how he managed to accomplish the task.

Ask your child:

  • - what did the boy do?
  • - Why does the child think his act is wrong?
  • - how would the child himself act in this situation?

Listen carefully to your child.Then ask him to shift the balls with a flat shovel. In the middle of the process, come out and observe how honestly the child performs everything. Then conduct a conversation.

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Gather a group of children and ask the past subject to follow the process in your absence. Not all children are capable of accepting this role: they can not only ignore the violations of their peers, but also cover their "criminal" actions. Interestingly, children who have taken on the role of mentor, made comments and monitored, again performing the task without witnesses, will do everything honestly.

First of all, the child’s attitude towards himself must change. The child seems to bloom, grows up before his eyes. He has a new form of control - self controlAnd the stronger in your child the voice of this internal self-control, the less you will have to subsequently remind him what is good and what is bad.