How many children should be in the family

How many people - so many opinions. But when the children are swarming around, some feeling of surprise and joy rises in the chest. Is this what we decided for two? How could one live without them, without their lepers and pranks? Thanks to them, there is an incentive to develop and grow further. I would like a couple more kids ... Although, and with these lack of trouble.

So how many children should be in a family? Thought about it? Have you consulted with your "half"? Somehow my husband and I discussed abstractly before the wedding, "but if ...", when everyone expressed his vision of the family. And with the same direction of thought, the bond between us strengthened. It would seem that the usual question: "What is the greatest number of children in the family should be?" But due to different views on him, families sometimes break up.

Think about it: SEVEN. So there must be seven? But for someone the seven are two parents from the husband, two from the wife, one child for all. One grandson or granddaughter. But can such a family be complete? When on six adults only one child, to whom all the attention, all the gifts, all care. And if suddenly trouble? What then? Is life lived for nothing? No, in my opinion, one child in the family is a lot only for those who are used to spending time in nightclubs, frequent trips and festivities up to late hours. For society, for a particular family, one child is not enough. Because the probability of growing an egoist increases substantially. Especially if the next of kin have no children.

So what? Give birth to seven children, giving them their own "I"? In the current situation, when the country's economy leaves much to be desired, this is not the best option. Seven is very difficult to bear, give birth, raise and put on their feet. Even in rural areas, when most of the products are their own, the cost of clothes, shoes, education costs increase significantly. Seven children can afford either very wealthy people or very poor. After all, it is easier for the poor not to protect themselves and, as a result, to raise half-starved children. This may concern any large number of children (more than three). You should not be attached precisely to the number seven.

We liked the idea of ​​having four children and having some kind of animal. Together with us the treasured seven turns out. How did we think? Two worth giving birth almost immediately after the wedding. Make the difference between them for 2-3 years, so that they would be more interesting to grow together. Then there is a break of 7-9 years and two more with the same difference. The older ones will already go to school, they will become more independent. This decision is based on a detailed observation of the surrounding families. Somewhere in the 1980s, many families had three children. Probably, this fact can be associated with the benefits provided to large families. But the younger one, as a rule, turned out to have a more long-term difference with the middle child than the two older ones. And then the events unfolded in a similar way: the elder became almost the nurse for the younger. At the same time, that line was lost when the youngest child grew up and it was time to make independent decisions. A split between the children with age could intensify in the family, especially if there was no desire to smooth the situation. So the three are not the best number for children. For the development of the child, it is better to take care of the couple, a dear friend, with whom the baby will grow and grow up.

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Finally, I will say that in families where there are two children, mutual understanding and love can reign. But for a full life, it is necessary not only a single continuation of each of the parents, but also the expansion of their kind. And this is possible only in the case when there are more children than parents. Those. children should be more than two.

Especially for - Katerina

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