Their union could not have happened, because when they met, Tatyana already had a young man. But, probably, for real feelings there are no obstacles.
Tell us where and how did you meet?
Tatyana :We met at the university. Were fellow students.
How many are already together?
Tatyana : Together for 6 years. Married for almost 2.5 years. Our daughter is 6.5 months
How did you understand that you want to be together? Why did you choose him (her)?
Tatyana : I immediately liked him ... almost love at first sight! He has always been a very handsome and spectacular guy! At first, of course, it was just sympathy, as for an attractive and charming young man. No grand feelings were foreseen, especially at that time I had a young man. From his side, I did not see at all and did not feel any sympathy or intentions. A little later it turned out that we have mutual acquaintances. We began to meet with a company outside the institute, began to communicate more at school, sit together, work together in the library, have lunch at breaks and so on. So we know each other well. Flirting started, I liked him more and more. I became pretty to him. After six months, I realized that I was incredibly interested with him, we have a lot in common, and mutual sympathy began to grow into something more serious. I finished my previous relationship and ... since then we have been together.
Have you ever quarreled, and did you get to partings?
Tatyana :Of course we quarreled. For 6 years, then ... and now there are quarrels, although quarrels are not called .. sooner disagreements. Once strongly quarreled. This is the only quarrel I remember well. We haven't talked for a week. All the rest of our grievances end in 2 hours after a quarrel. And after 3 hours we didn’t remember why we swore.
The secret of how you put up?
Tatyana:The secret is that we both know what we want! We want to be together forever! All of my life! We know that no matter how much we quarrel or disagree with each other, in the end, we will still make peace because we want to make peace! So why waste time and nerves on a quarrel, if the result is known? There is perhaps nothing, no offense, which we could not forgive each other. Because being close is more important! We have been building our relationship for a long time, we have already invested a lot in them, and no principles are worth these forces! And, of course, we must remember that there are no perfect people! All have their flaws and quirks. But if you have chosen your soul mate - you must love her entirely, and all of her flaws as well!
Have you had hard times in your life and how did you overcome them together?
Tatyana :...were At the beginning of our relationship, in the first months after the wedding, in the first months after the birth of our daughter. We overcame them TOGETHER! Shoulder to shoulder, believing that everything will be fine. And while it never let us down!
How to keep the relationship so far? What helped you?
Tatyana :An interesting question ... Yes, we do not save them ... we just love each other, we live for each other. Each of us first of all thinks that the other is good! We do not expect anything from each other, we demand nothing! We do not live by the 50/50 principle, we do not argue "you - me, I - you". "I - you, I - you" - Only when you give your all to your loved one, will your relationship flourish!
How did having a baby affect your relationship?
Tatyana :It only strengthened them! We saw each other new qualities, got to know each other from the new side!
Did Jealousy have a place in a relationship, if so, how did you cope with it?
Tatyana :Not. Jealousy is a strange feeling ... it destroys love. I trust my husband, and he will trust me. Trust is the basis of any relationship.
Did Passion Have a Place? Is it now?
Tatyana :It depends on what is meant by the word "passion". At the beginning of any love relationship there is an emotional surge, imbalance, awe, excitement, and so on. Over time, this passes. It seems to me the way it should be. Relationships are moving to a new stage. They become serious, and people should treat them more seriously. And for this you need to calm down, catch your breath and start treating each other more calmly. Otherwise, in a constant emotional tension (which is inherent in passion) it is easy to destroy what was just beginning to emerge.
What is love for you?
Tatyana :I can not quote the Bible:"... Love is patient, merciful, love is not jealous, love is not exalted, not proud, not outrageous, not looking for its own, not irritated, does not think evil, does not rejoice in untruth, but rejoices in the truth; He covers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, transfers everything. Love never ends...". Better love can not be said!
Advice to readers:Always follow your heart. Perhaps love is very close, and you just do not notice it.
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