Two roads that once ran parallel and suddenly crossed. Is not fate? Having left their inexperience and maximalism in their first marriages, they found a completely different, happy life in a new relationship. Former blunders are spoken with calm and openness. Why keep “skeletons in the closet”, if there is better to place new memories of a strong family?
Photographer Lana Gushchina
The interview was provided by Anastasia, 36 years old.
Katrin: Tell us where and how you met.
Anastasia: My current husband is a friend of my first husband. He introduced us. We often met, talked. When she was married to the first, she didn’t even think that she would start a relationship with his friend. But when the marriage was already falling apart with a vengeance, suddenly a strong shoulder was near. And still supports at any moment of our life together.
Katrin: How many have you got together since the day you met?
Anastasia: 12 years have passed since our acquaintance, but our life together lasts only 5.
Katrin: How did you understand that you want to be together? Why did you choose him / her?
Anastasia: At some point we realized that we have a lot in common. We are similar in relation to domestic issues, we like the same films, music.
Katrin:Have you ever quarreled, and did you get to partings?
Anastasia: Quarrel very rarely.
Katrin:The secret of how you put up?
Anastasia: If we feel that the misunderstanding is growing, just stop talking. If one of us has done something wrong, we do not pounce on the charges, but try to find out why. It helps to translate everything into a joke.
Katrin:How did the appearance of children (if any) affect your relationship?
Anastasia: We have one joint child, and we love him very much. But since by the time of birth in our family there were already children from previous marriages, then this baby simply brought us together even more.
Katrin:Have you had hard times in your life, and how did you overcome them together?
Anastasia: Nothing heavy, fortunately, we did not have to overcome.
Katrin:How to keep the relationship so far? What helped you?
Anastasia: Mutual understanding and sense of humor.
Katrin:Did jealousy take place in a relationship? If so, how did you deal with it?
Anastasia: There is no jealousy. There is, rather, an ironic attitude towards others, including those of the opposite sex. Jealousy will not help protect relationships, but humor in a seemingly serious situation - yes, completely.
Katrin:What about passion?
Anastasia: How to live without her - I do not know. With her - bright and not boring. Do not believe those who argue that after a few years of living together on passion will not be left. This they have left, and whoever wants to, will surely find ways to support it.
Katrin:What is love for you?
Anastasia: Love is the same outlook on life. And yet - tenderness to each other.
Advice to readers: Love each other. Speak frankly about your past. If you are not ready to talk calmly about past relationships, then one of two things: either they have not ended for you inside, or you have not learned a valuable lesson from them about how not to do it. Think of the fact that the burden of past mistakes can significantly spoil the ideal relationship in the present. And if everything is open and transparent, it is customary in the family to discuss not only the upbringing of children, but also their own emotions, then life will become completely different in quality and internal content.
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