How often do Russian women rejoice that their marriage is nevertheless built according to the Western type of family. Few people would like to be on the site of an Eastern woman, where all household chores are dumped on her, and where she cannot take a step without the permission of her husband. But let's still take a closer look at eastern family, Are women really so miserable there?
Eastern family has deep ancient roots. And the first association we have, when we talk about the east, arises - a harem. It seems to us that one powerful man owns a dozen women. However, it was once. Now in the east it is supposed to have no more than four wives, and that if means allow. Because a man contains all these women, besides, if he is rich, he also contains maids. The relationship between husband and wife in the east is similar to the relationship between father and daughter. There are almost no horizontal relationships (there is also a hierarchy of seniority between the wives), only vertical ones are present. Younger wives are always jealous of their husbands to their elders.
Eastern Cell Society
But still modern eastern society is increasingly inclined to the monogamous family. Moreover, the husband and wife form, as a rule, horizontal relationships. The influence of the West on the culture of the east. However, the traditions of antiquity still remain in the so-called collectivist and individualistic cultures. The main function of the family for them - the birth of children. Collective dormitory is engaged in raising children in collectivist culture. Children are almost not the subject of education of the father and mother. However, society dictates the care of parents to children (in traditional China, for example, the relationship is father-son, and in traditional India is mother-son).
There are also common standards for the personal development of each member of a collectivist society. That is why Eastern philosophies are so similar to each other. From here and conservatism in family traditions. Eastern family is not afraid of mistakes in parenting. If, nevertheless, the child behaves asocially, then responsibility for this will fall not only on his family, but also to a greater degree on the whole of society. Therefore, the family in the east is truly the "cell of society" (part of society).
Raising children in the East
For the east, emotional parenting is important. Consider this on the example of Japan. The image of the mother of the Japanese is associated with the word "amae." This word is difficult to find a synonym in Russian. It denotes a positive feeling of dependence on the mother. The verb from this word means "to be pampered", "to take advantage of something", "to seek patronage." The Japanese consider the desire of children for parental care to be positive. After all, she protects them from the influence of the street, from bad companies.
A Japanese woman can regulate a child’s behavior by influencing his feelings. She avoids confronting the child’s will and will, often expressing her displeasure not directly, but indirectly. The mother tries to create a very close emotional contact with the child, as this is a good means of control for her. She avoids showing her power over him, because it will distance the child from her. She is by example demonstrates the correct behavior in society. Her husband takes up the child, according to their rules, when the child goes to school and does not have such emotional contact with his mother. In the east, it is believed that only one mother should take care of small children.
In contrast to the West, eastern society is characterized by deep respect for parents and even the cult of ancestors. Children with great respect and reverence belong to their parents. The public system educates them to obey their parents even in adulthood. The father remains the head of the family as long as his health permits, when he falls ill, he usually lives dependent on the children. Respect and obedience are the main and main virtues that impart to oriental children.
Of course, one cannot agree that in Eastern traditions there is no happiness for women. Her happiness in taking care of her husband, children, creating a home, comfort. There are families where there is a maid or two with the wife, they help her to lead her life. She also focuses more on raising children. And if you turn the situation upside down, there is hardly an eastern woman who wants to live married according to our laws (among our women, there are few who are housewives all their lives).
Happiness in the east is significantly different from happiness in our modern view, but it has evolved over the centuries. And in the east, they greatly value their traditions.
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