After a simple monosyllabic greeting, the question of the current state of affairs is the usual practice of the majority of correspondence in social networks and occasional clashes in a public place with familiar people. How to answer it, what the interlocutor wants to hear, and is there any point in thinking about the response lines?
How to answer the questions of a formal nature?
It is impossible to give a single and universal answer for all situations and people, so every time you have to navigate the situation and determine the purpose for which this question was asked. In social networks, formal phrases can often be heard from an old acquaintance with whom communication is poorly maintained, or an unknown person who has decided to begin a conversation with you.
Moreover, 75% of conversations with a stranger begin with greetings and questioning about life, and only 25% build starting phrases more original. Do these people really care about the current state of affairs, or did they not think of other ideas, but wanted to get acquainted? It is not easy to decide, and to decide how to answer correctly is all the more so.
In a lively conversation, all the tips that apply to electronic communication also work. But here it should be remembered that the interlocutor can see the emotions reflected on the face. Therefore, convincing anyone that life is beautiful and wonderful, and things are steadily rising, one should at the moment sincerely believe in these words so as not to demonstrate possible falsehood.
With such dialogues, there is an important plus in the network: at any time, you can simply leave the conversation, referring to affairs, work, and so on. Important factors that prevent you from continuing to talk to the unpleasant person. With the same person who is interesting as an interlocutor, communication often develops independently. If this does not happen, but I don’t want to go to the stage of silence, it’s worth taking care that the response lines contain words and phrases that you can catch on with in order to develop the topic. These may be answering questions, but no longer formal, "but personality-oriented, or references to common interests, if known.
What is the answer to the question "How are you?" from an unfamiliar person?
- If there is no desire to continue a conversation with a stranger, it is enough to get off with a common, meaningless phrase. By her emotional color it will become clear that further dialogue will not take shape. “Normal”, “All is well”, etc., which do not give answers to details, will allow you to end the conversation without a negative. It is also possible to confuse the interlocutor by making the answer any excessively abstruse and overloaded with sentence, taken from scientific literature.
- If a stranger is unpleasant, it is permissible to use sharper phrases: “why are you interested?”, “Would you like to discuss it?”, “Not yours / your business”, etc. The degree of negative emotions in them varies depending on the identity of the person, but it is undesirable to overdo it. Politeness, even on the Internet, has not been canceled, so "I do not intend to discuss it with strangers" much more tactfully than "leave me alone (those)." And, of course, the simple silence is not discounted, which is resorted to as a last resort.
- Want to continue the conversation, since the stranger was able to interest you? Then it is better to forget about “good” and “great”: it is difficult for them to catch on with the next question, and as a result, they risk to become “what are you doing?”. Again, the answer will have to work. The best version will be any short phrase that requires the continuation of the conversation. Those. It can weakly affect any topic of interest - from hobbies to the weather. The most banal: "wonderful, only rain prevented the walk" and similar answers to this. In the case when the interlocutor is also interested in communication, further dialogue will not begin on impersonal issues.
We are looking for the answer to the question "how is life?" from a friend
If the question of life has been followed by an old acquaintance, with whom communication is hardly supported, but sometimes short, as if formal, dialogues occur, the variety of answers increases. Do not want to devote to the details of their own lives? You can answer in the same way, having addressed the interlocutor his own question in a rephrased form: "how are you?", "What to say about me - tell about yourself better". This option is also suitable for a polite translation of the topic, when it is inconvenient for a person to explain that there is no desire to talk with him.
Source question has a sense of humor? Evaluate the original rhymed answered the pun: "I did not have time to marry / marry, it is still early to die," "it reminds a taxi and a fairy tale - prices are rising, difficulties are progressing," or any other variations. However, such ideas are more applicable in communicating with a well-known person with whom you are on a short leg.
In the case when the question comes from a relative or other relatively close person, it is likely that he is really interested to get acquainted with the events of that period of your life that he managed to miss. How much detail to delve into them - the personal decision of each. No desire to share problems? You can describe only the positive side, trying not to paint everything. There is a high degree of trust - it is worth going into the details. The only thing you do not need to lie: to hide part of the information - do not lie.
When questioning by an unpleasant person, whose interest in your life is perceived with suspicion or other negative, you can embellish the reality. True, and here you need to keep within the framework, because global deception in the presence of mutual friends is easy to reveal. Allowed the share of sarcasm and sarcasm. Everything is selected according to the personality of the person with whom the dialogue is being conducted. "Against the background of children in Africa - amazingly, next to the oligarchs - mediocre," etc.
What to answer if they ask "what are you doing"?
After the stage of inquiries about life, it is often used in the course of another 1, who has sickened users of social networks, the question is about the current lesson. He is able to look like “what are you doing?”, And how “what are you doing?”. The latest version of it is easy to answer in a different way, taking it as an interest in a hobby. But what to do with the other, more common?
Again, it is required to proceed from the identity of the interlocutor. An unknown person or one with whom there is no desire to develop a dialogue? Dispense with sarcastic or impish phrase, after which the conversation is unlikely to continue. For example: "I am constructing a plate for green men" or "I choose a Lexus in the cabin."
More polite options that imply the end of a conversation may sound like “deep in the head” or “launched an interesting film, going to watch”. If the questioner does not let up, the scheme returns to the one that was used with the question “how are you?”: A monosyllabic answer and silence. Sharply, but often very effective.
The one from whom the question is received is interesting, and I would like to talk with him for a longer time? It is worth telling the truth, but more interesting than "sitting on a chair, talking with you." It is advisable to build an answer so as to lure the interlocutor into a new dialogue. Let's say share the difficulties of choosing a movie for viewing and ask you to recommend something. Or mention the problem with some kind of equipment and hope for advice in this matter. It is important to give the interlocutor an opportunity after the question of current actions to go into the discussion of something.
Even if the standard set of questions pursues day after day in social networks and random clashes on the street, the main thing is to radiate positive emotions and not get lost on the interlocutor. A sarcastic phrase will give you a lot more than a boorish answer. And be sure to consider the type of relationship - this will determine your reaction to the question.